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Post by Hay-Lin on Oct 8, 2008 21:11:58 GMT -6
Yes, Japanese have done this since the reign of the emperor. It's the parent's job to hitch his daughter with someone she hardly meets till she's 20 years old. Yeah, they're very old fashioned huh? It's how they did it in Japan with the royal family and ect. I know that there were some conflict with the children on this, but parents, well most parents, wanted their child to be happy and successful. Now I know why they stopped it. Wow, I understand Romeo and Juliet! On the other hand, the child DID become famous and wealthy, even though they were unhappy. sometimes. Most parents would be happy that their child was with another family, but some parents, mainly mothers, had no say in the matter. They knew that their child was suffering, and some even went to extreme lengths to keep their beloved child from marrying into another family, like killing, murders, running away, ect. Anyways, the topic: do you think Arranged marriages are bad or are they good?
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Post by britney on Oct 8, 2008 21:15:38 GMT -6
I think it's bad UNLESS someone REALLY cute was arranged to marry me but I heard times when really pretty people had to be forced into marrying REALLY ugly people (and I mean uglier than you could EVER image [think of the movie WITCHES])
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Post by Nobunaga Oda on Oct 9, 2008 4:55:40 GMT -6
Well Japan wasn't the only country that had arranged marriages, to be honest up untill well after the 1800's most countries practiced arranged marrages, and in India the parents still have a major role in the choosing of thier children's spouse. I think its a bad thing for the simple fact it cuts into the social freedoms we enjoy to express today.
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Post by Hay-Lin on Oct 9, 2008 8:07:18 GMT -6
I think it's bad UNLESS someone REALLY cute was arranged to marry me but I heard times when really pretty people had to be forced into marrying REALLY ugly people (and I mean uglier than you could EVER image [think of the movie WITCHES]) Yes, I've heard of that. LOL! And yes thank god that my parents let me marry whom ever I want. Hello modern world! ;D
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Post by Hay-Lin on Oct 9, 2008 8:08:50 GMT -6
Well Japan wasn't the only country that had arranged marriages, to be honest up untill well after the 1800's most countries practiced arranged marrages, and in India the parents still have a major role in the choosing of thier children's spouse. I think its a bad thing for the simple fact it cuts into the social freedoms we enjoy to express today. Yeah, we have freedom today in America, though some don't, most children have to go with traditions and such. That's restricting freedom, huh?
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Post by Lu Bu on Oct 9, 2008 8:40:29 GMT -6
if u love someone so much do not let anyone stop u from loving that person... all I have to say hands down.. ;D
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Post by Hay-Lin on Oct 9, 2008 10:03:13 GMT -6
Yeah me too!
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Post by Sanada Yukimura on Oct 9, 2008 16:19:20 GMT -6
Yes I do agree.
Take of those you cherish, and your heart shall not perish
Thats what I say, as of now.
So if you love someone truly then go for it and be loyal.
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Post by Lu Bu on Oct 9, 2008 18:03:08 GMT -6
Ahahahaha I was right WOOOOO
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Post by britney on Oct 10, 2008 19:38:14 GMT -6
Thats Right
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Quentinos
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Post by Quentinos on Oct 12, 2008 2:44:58 GMT -6
Nowadays the arranged marriage is booming with profit? Lets take a look on somewhere else; Thailand and Vietnam, I have a couple of friends, relatives had already engage themselves arranged marriage through some "bride agency" and trust the agency to find a "bride" in Thailand and Vietnam.
Why Thailand and Vietnam? because the girls over there are knowned to be hard working and obeying, most importantly it is not expensive to get a bride from there and they are quite young and not bad looking as well.
Why is it there is a arranged marriage? In Malaysia and Singapore, this has become a "trend" the local girls are highly demanded or maybe the men are lacking charisma, and prefer a more secure "buying relation" than wasting time to build a relation; Or they can't find suitable partners on their own.
If you ask me, there is actually some good with arranged marriage. Yes, it is really hard you can't be with the ones you love the most, but in Asia countries regardless of what races, they will always see the marriage is a sign of commitment in their traditional aspect. Which means "The bond has tied and will not broke easily"
Also, the arranged marriage has somehow "evolved"? not forcible like the older days. You will be really surprising, that some parents nowadays make some effort in info data collecting from their son and daughter and "exchange" the data from other families to see whether it is "suitable". Some exchange emails, photos, a little bit of background; if it is not suitable, then we move on to the next "candidate" ;D
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Post by Lu Bu on Oct 17, 2008 16:09:43 GMT -6
wow thats alot...
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Post by britney on Oct 17, 2008 18:37:57 GMT -6
You're right.
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Post by Hay-Lin on Oct 17, 2008 19:49:46 GMT -6
I thnk that you should be in love with the one you find by yourself, not your parents! It''s almost like Rama 1/2, but he liked his first bride. LOL! He had too many!
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Post by Lu Bu on Oct 17, 2008 22:27:08 GMT -6
I just wait and waited...
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